I’m not going to lie – my default mode is being a procrastinator. It’s hard to feel motivated for something when it seems so far away, right? It’s why I waited 5 weeks before my test the first time around to study.
I’ve gotten better over the years, though. You get burned enough to learn that maybe waiting until the last minute for EVERYTHING isn’t such a great idea. Especially at work – you very quickly learn that rarely does a deliverable rely on one person. If you wait until the last minute to complete a product, then you have to cross your fingers that the reviewers, the GIS person, and secretary can just drop whatever they are doing to help you. Procrastinating at work is a great way to make enemies and have people hate you, so I prioritize my deadlines as much as possible.
For wedding planning, we were good about tackling the big items early. Several weeks after we were engaged, we were looking at venues, and selected one by early February of last year. (Though it was all for naught, since we lost our venue in December and had to scramble to find another. Ha! Ha! ) We lined up the caterer, day-of-coordinator, and photographer early.
Then summer and fall happened – traveling to Italy, studying for my exam, prioritizing work projects meant that wedding planning fell on the bottom of my priorities list. In September, I was gripped by a sudden fear that I NEED TO BUY MY DRESS NOW, so I hurriedly made an appointment at David’s Bridal and purchased one. And then I didn’t worry about how I was going to look until the beginning of this year. OH GOD I NEED TO SCHEDULE A HAIR AND MAKEUP TRIAL. AND A DRESS FITTING. AND I NEED SHOES. AND A VEIL.
I scheduled my fitting the week before my hair and makeup trial (which was today). While we were shopping, we found a pretty veil. I was on the fence about getting a veil, but gave in and bought one. (Once upon a time I thought I would make my own veil. Hahahahahaha.) My mom and I went back and forth about getting a tiara (I was very firmly in the “not wearing a tiara ever” camp), but I found a pretty head piece that would accentuate my dress but wouldn’t give off Princess Diana vibes. I also purchased an accessory for my dress that I don’t want to give away here in case my fiancé reads this, EVEN THOUGH I ALREADY DID ACCIDENTALLY OOPS.
After I frenetically found all the accessories I wanted, the seamstress showed me the tally for the alternations. Now, I had purchased a cheaper dress well below my already modest budget. But the alterations COST AS MUCH AS MY DRESS. I started entering panic mode. Since I wanted to have the veil and headpiece ready for my makeup trial, I resigned myself to dropping a bit of money on everything.
When I went to the cash register, I asked the cashier if I could do a layaway plan. Nope, everything had to be paid for up front. Of course it did. When she chirpily read out the total, I sadly grabbed my debit card and mentally thanked the universe that I’d gotten paid the day before. And to reward me for dropping a small fortune on accessories I would wear for five hours of my life, David’s Bridal decided to reward me with THREE FREE PRINTS TO SHUTTERFLY, YOU GUYS!
I was mad when I returned home, especially when I started pinning looks for brides with headpieces and veils, and saw veils I could have purchased at half the cost of the one I’d purchased at David’s Bridal. If only I had taken more time to find a veil (or make one).
I was angry about it for three or four days before placating myself – the accessory plus the dress equals the modest budget I’d originally had in mind for a dress. The veil, alterations, and shoes would have been purchased regardless of the dress, so if I’d picked a more expensive dress, then that would have been even MORE money spent.
Or, Fiancé and I could have gone to the courthouse and I could have worn some jeans and a top from Target and spent $0, I’M KIDDING but kind of not really.
And yet the procrastination continues, because instead of taking the time to make wedding-related decorations, I am NOT doing those things and crafting things completely unrelated to the wedding.
Less than two and a half months to go, guys. I have a feeling there will be more of these posts.